Millions of women find themselves lost in the shuffle when their child or children leave home for college or even to move out on their own for the first time. While this is a huge change for the whole family, it can be time where the empty nest syndrome kicks in for quite a few mothers and they simply become stuck in a bout of depression and even sadness. They unfortunately do not see the good in the current changes in their lives and the lives of their children and they end up becoming overwhelmed and not able to get used to the fact that their children are getting older. Some mothers feel they are left behind and want to still be a very big part of their child's lives.
The key to understanding the root of the empty nest depression syndrome is to grasp why you are experiencing it. Is it that you have a feeling of being needed that is no longer present or is it that you are saddened that your children are growing up? Finding out the answer to that is key to your quick recovery. The other part is to breakdown the situation to really see it for what it is. When your children are going off to college or they are moving out to begin their adult lives that is a time for celebration. This sets in stone that you in fact were a fantastic parent for all of those years and your child has taken a great path to further their education for a great career ahead or they have reached a level of independence that you should be very proud of. Think of the mothers you encounter that have one or more children that are adults in their thirties still living with them, or the ones that not only have their adult children with them but their grandchildren living with them as well. That is not a situation you desire to happened ever, it scrams confusion to the grandchildren as to why they are residing with their grandparents and their other classmates do not have similar arrangements.
Having an empty nest for a mother is a huge blessing, this means you have paid your dues as a mother and now you can enjoy more time for yourself. Take advantage of your new freedom and do things you previously did not have time for. Spend time your friends, neighbors and family that you would not ordinarily have. Take a class locally to do pottery work or painting or anything that may spark your interest. Volunteer at a local hospital or organization working with children if that is something you would enjoy. There are so many things you can now engage in that you may have wanted to earlier in life and couldn't due to your maternal duties. Traveling may be another great opportunity for you to experience as well. Keep in contact with your children and in no time they will be back to visit and to get all of those elements that only mom can supply them with!
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